i’m in a happy happy mood
the air feel so nice outside. finally there isn’t a biting wind and it feels damn good
Same here. It’s lovely, isn’t it?
A good lesson I learned is that being compassionate is not simply an act or attitude we extend to others. I’ve spent a lot of time in my life thinking that being a compassionate person is only outwardly directed but in reality compassion for yourself is just as crucial as compassion for your friends, enemies, and total strangers.
How did I learn this? My best friend struggles a lot with eating issues and unsupportive parents (which I also suffer from). I was always quick to tell her that she’s beautiful and should enjoy doughnuts and not listen to her parents - that everything is less painful that she thinks it is. But then I would turn around journal about how I eat too much and how I think my parents criticisms are indicative of my actual potential. It’s interesting because it took her calling me out on my double standard; I’m forgiving to others but unforgiving to myself.
It doesn’t seem like a double standard, but it is. So, obviously, now I make a serious effort to be compassionate and understanding with myself and my needs. Being a kind and loyal person also means being kind and loyal towards yourself!
Sounds simple, I guess, but it’s super important. Also thanks for asking! ^^